At times it can feel rather difficult being a Christian in today’s society, especially when you’re trying to date and find a long term partner. In the age of online dating and modern technology, it’s all too easy to forget the importance of God and focus on finding the best-looking, most attractive person possible. If you’re looking for a meaningful and Christian partner, there are a number of things you can do to present yourself as (and attract others who are) someone who upholds traditional Christian values such as godliness, purity, truth, righteousness, honour and joy.
Be authentic and honest
In order to place yourself in a good position to find a good Christian partner, you will need to be authentic and honest both about who you are and what you want. Not only will this help you to attract the kind of people you’re looking to find, it minimises any messiness later on. For example, if it’s important that you only date other Christians, you need to let people know this before you start dating. That way, you’ll have similar expectations from dating and any subsequent relationships.
Remember that your faith is an important part of your identity, and you should never hide it from potential dates.
Take your time once you’ve met them
If you’re dating online, it can be all too easy to build up a fantasy image in your head that the real person will never be able to match, so try not to leave it too long until you meet them for the first time. After that, if things go well and you want to keep in touch with them, resist the urge to quickly get into a relationship.
Whilst meeting someone you really like can be extremely exciting, but taking things slowly gives you the time to really get to know someone, find out if they’re truly faithful to God and if you’d be compatible as a couple.
Hold yourself accountable
Many Christians are using online dating in an attempt to find other Christians, but with the rise of online dating, fewer of us than ever really hold ourselves accountable and communicate honestly with each other. By letting your date know whether or not you want to see them again, you make things for them a lot easier and you’ll feel far better moving on with your life.
Open your heart and your mind
If you’ve spent a long time on online dating sites, you may want to review everything you have listed. If you have very strict criteria for age, height, income and appearance, you aren’t opening yourself up to meeting a kind, godly person who you may just find that ‘spark’ with. Ideally, you need to look for someone kind, wise and who you can one day see being your spouse in a Christian family.
When you’re dating, the best thing you can do is take plenty of time with God and think very carefully about the people you’re meeting and if any of them are worth you investing your time and emotion in. Dating is ultimately about building trust with another person, and if that isn’t happening, you may need God’s guidance about what to do next.
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